Comments on: Birds, Bees, WooWoos and HooHas http://fauxrealtho.com/2006/11/05/birds-bees-woowoos-and-hoohas/ Tue, 18 Nov 2008 15:27:52 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Our Sex Talk at Faux Real Tho! http://fauxrealtho.com/2006/11/05/birds-bees-woowoos-and-hoohas/#comment-1038 Our Sex Talk at Faux Real Tho! Wed, 08 Nov 2006 15:53:54 +0000 http://fauxrealtho.com/2006/11/05/birds-bees-woowoos-and-hoohas/#comment-1038 [...] I am so glad I had this book, because if I didn’t I wouldn’t have had a bit of structure to the ensuing conversation. My mother sort of had a sex talk with me, but I remember shouting her down and trying not to listen as she extolled on the process of menstruation. This left me with trying to rectify my values with the cliche of the sex talk with my seven-year-old, as well as actually trying to answer his question, which was, to wit, “If the baby is inside the mother, how the hell does it get out?“* [...] [...] I am so glad I had this book, because if I didn’t I wouldn’t have had a bit of structure to the ensuing conversation. My mother sort of had a sex talk with me, but I remember shouting her down and trying not to listen as she extolled on the process of menstruation. This left me with trying to rectify my values with the cliche of the sex talk with my seven-year-old, as well as actually trying to answer his question, which was, to wit, “If the baby is inside the mother, how the hell does it get out?“* [...]

]]> By: Robert http://fauxrealtho.com/2006/11/05/birds-bees-woowoos-and-hoohas/#comment-1019 Robert Mon, 06 Nov 2006 23:26:49 +0000 http://fauxrealtho.com/2006/11/05/birds-bees-woowoos-and-hoohas/#comment-1019 That's a wonderful book; it's the book our parents taught us from. It's strangely silent on the role that gin and tonics play in the process, but other than that, primo stuff. That’s a wonderful book; it’s the book our parents taught us from. It’s strangely silent on the role that gin and tonics play in the process, but other than that, primo stuff.

]]> By: Thomas http://fauxrealtho.com/2006/11/05/birds-bees-woowoos-and-hoohas/#comment-1018 Thomas Mon, 06 Nov 2006 22:40:42 +0000 http://fauxrealtho.com/2006/11/05/birds-bees-woowoos-and-hoohas/#comment-1018 My parents were obviously nervous, and tried to do the "one big speech" thing instead of seamlessly integrating the information like it's no big deal. They tried to do the big talk when I was eleven, when they had noticed me showing interest in girls my age. I'm sure it never crossed their mind that they were behind the curve, but by then I had already gotten and given oral. The one-big-talk will always be either too early or too late, too much information or too little. My parents were obviously nervous, and tried to do the “one big speech” thing instead of seamlessly integrating the information like it’s no big deal. They tried to do the big talk when I was eleven, when they had noticed me showing interest in girls my age. I’m sure it never crossed their mind that they were behind the curve, but by then I had already gotten and given oral.

The one-big-talk will always be either too early or too late, too much information or too little.

]]> By: Elizabeth http://fauxrealtho.com/2006/11/05/birds-bees-woowoos-and-hoohas/#comment-1014 Elizabeth Mon, 06 Nov 2006 21:49:11 +0000 http://fauxrealtho.com/2006/11/05/birds-bees-woowoos-and-hoohas/#comment-1014 I read that at least 25 years ago, so I'm not sure it counts as a *new* classic. But yes, it's a good one. Right now I'm looking for a children's book about anatomy that covers reproductive organs as well as other organs, but isn't solely about sex. I read that at least 25 years ago, so I’m not sure it counts as a *new* classic. But yes, it’s a good one.

Right now I’m looking for a children’s book about anatomy that covers reproductive organs as well as other organs, but isn’t solely about sex.

]]> By: Jim http://fauxrealtho.com/2006/11/05/birds-bees-woowoos-and-hoohas/#comment-1013 Jim Mon, 06 Nov 2006 19:11:25 +0000 http://fauxrealtho.com/2006/11/05/birds-bees-woowoos-and-hoohas/#comment-1013 Just found out yesterday from Amanda that you're back! So nice to have you linked on my blog again (ummm... it's under the parenting heading, let me know if you have an issue with that). I need to get this book and thanks for pointing it out to us. My oldest is 8 and hasn't started asking "those questions" but we all know it's just a matter of time. I'd like to do a better job than my parents did - but don't we all? Just found out yesterday from Amanda that you’re back! So nice to have you linked on my blog again (ummm… it’s under the parenting heading, let me know if you have an issue with that).

I need to get this book and thanks for pointing it out to us. My oldest is 8 and hasn’t started asking “those questions” but we all know it’s just a matter of time. I’d like to do a better job than my parents did - but don’t we all?

]]> By: ks http://fauxrealtho.com/2006/11/05/birds-bees-woowoos-and-hoohas/#comment-1012 ks Mon, 06 Nov 2006 16:54:12 +0000 http://fauxrealtho.com/2006/11/05/birds-bees-woowoos-and-hoohas/#comment-1012 How old is Ethan? My oldest is 4 and very curious about most everything, but I haven't been asked about that yet. I don't know if 4 is too young to bring that sort of thing up, but I kind of wish he'd just ask already so that I can get it over with and at least have the subject out there for when he really wants to know what's going on. How old is Ethan? My oldest is 4 and very curious about most everything, but I haven’t been asked about that yet. I don’t know if 4 is too young to bring that sort of thing up, but I kind of wish he’d just ask already so that I can get it over with and at least have the subject out there for when he really wants to know what’s going on.

]]> By: KMTBerry http://fauxrealtho.com/2006/11/05/birds-bees-woowoos-and-hoohas/#comment-1009 KMTBerry Mon, 06 Nov 2006 09:36:51 +0000 http://fauxrealtho.com/2006/11/05/birds-bees-woowoos-and-hoohas/#comment-1009 My 9 year old brother told me that "Sex is something that men have with Prostitutes...in Mexico!" And that's all the info I got until I was 12 or so..... My 9 year old brother told me that “Sex is something that men have with Prostitutes…in Mexico!”

And that’s all the info I got until I was 12 or so…..

]]> By: Roxanne http://fauxrealtho.com/2006/11/05/birds-bees-woowoos-and-hoohas/#comment-1007 Roxanne Mon, 06 Nov 2006 04:10:44 +0000 http://fauxrealtho.com/2006/11/05/birds-bees-woowoos-and-hoohas/#comment-1007 I could have used that book. When I was about 11, I asked my mom why the nuns didn't have babies. I could have used that book. When I was about 11, I asked my mom why the nuns didn’t have babies.

]]> By: Roonie http://fauxrealtho.com/2006/11/05/birds-bees-woowoos-and-hoohas/#comment-1004 Roonie Mon, 06 Nov 2006 03:57:05 +0000 http://fauxrealtho.com/2006/11/05/birds-bees-woowoos-and-hoohas/#comment-1004 Oh, please remember the details of how you address it! My mother (or father) never had this discussion with me. Thank goodness I like to read to verify the truth or falsity of the chitter chatter I was hearing amongst friends. For the longest time, I thought a "blow job" was just that - blowing air at someone's crotch. Ha! I suppose the latter is a conversation for another day (years off) though, isn't it? Oh, please remember the details of how you address it! My mother (or father) never had this discussion with me. Thank goodness I like to read to verify the truth or falsity of the chitter chatter I was hearing amongst friends. For the longest time, I thought a “blow job” was just that - blowing air at someone’s crotch. Ha!

I suppose the latter is a conversation for another day (years off) though, isn’t it?

]]> By: Frumious B http://fauxrealtho.com/2006/11/05/birds-bees-woowoos-and-hoohas/#comment-1002 Frumious B Mon, 06 Nov 2006 03:26:40 +0000 http://fauxrealtho.com/2006/11/05/birds-bees-woowoos-and-hoohas/#comment-1002 Kat: tell him now, but don't just sit down out of the blue. keep your eyes open for a good opportunity and take advantage of it when it comes along. Lauren: good for you to thinking of this ahead of time and being prepared when he asked. I got the basic biological information at a very young age - probably younger than 9 - because my mom wanted her children to be educated. I never got the follow up information about why I might want to have sex or how I might feel if I did b/c my parents were Catholic and I just wasn't supposed to have it until I got married and then it would be magically great. Biology at 9 isn't enough. You need to keep having these conversations and adding more details as they get older. It won't get any easier, but it gets more and more necessary. Kat: tell him now, but don’t just sit down out of the blue. keep your eyes open for a good opportunity and take advantage of it when it comes along.

Lauren: good for you to thinking of this ahead of time and being prepared when he asked.

I got the basic biological information at a very young age - probably younger than 9 - because my mom wanted her children to be educated. I never got the follow up information about why I might want to have sex or how I might feel if I did b/c my parents were Catholic and I just wasn’t supposed to have it until I got married and then it would be magically great. Biology at 9 isn’t enough. You need to keep having these conversations and adding more details as they get older. It won’t get any easier, but it gets more and more necessary.

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