Resolution

To balance this and this in my life, because when I’m real with myself, I simultaneously believe both things but practice neither.

Girls Town, 11/2007

I caught the movie Girls Town (1996) a few months ago and luckily happened across it on the Sundance Channel tonight. I meant to write about it at the time, but was so caught up in my initial reaction to the movie that I couldn’t put anything coherent together. A quick synopsis from this review:

The movie’s opening scenes sketch an easy friendship between a group of four smart/sassy high school outsiders on the verge of graduation: Patti, Angela (Bruklin Harris), Emma (Anna Grace), and Nikki (Aunjanue Ellis). But about 10 minutes into the film, we get word that Nikki has swallowed a fistful of pills and bowed out of life. The remaining girls manage to smuggle Nikki’s diary out of her grieving mother’s home, and page through it at Patti’s place, investigating the root of Nikki’s despair. What they find is cruel and galvanizing — Nikki had been raped by an editor at a newspaper where she interned, and was privately questioning the sanity and value of a world where such a thing could happen.

Shell-shocked by the truth of the matter, the three girls begin to talk among themselves and come to a realization about their own lives. Emma says she was raped last year on a date with a football player. Patti’s barely sympathetic, wondering what the hell Emma thought she was doing with her shirt off in a jock’s car. And anyway, Patti’s had her own share of guys who wouldn’t take no for an answer. Pained, acrimonious debate ensues as the trio grow more and more angry — angry about the impossibility of saying no, and angry with themselves for being weak, for being naive, for putting up with it. “Why do we put up with it?” Emma finally asks, once the argument has reached a fever pitch. “We try to talk about it, and look what happens. We fight for 20 minutes.”

Better reviews can cover the weaknesses of the film — and there are many, this is a low budget indie from the period when indies were truly independent — but my overwhelming reaction to the movie was astonishment at how the overarching feminist ideals of the film were so plainly represented. Considering the sheer number of movies I’ve been watching over the last year, and considering that I generally look for movies with strong, non-cipher female characters, the fact that I, skeptical movie watcher, was so blown away by the straightforward, if somewhat stereotypical, representations of urban teenage girls is remarkable.

Perhaps the thing that finally made me pause the movie and take a breath was the long shot of a teen mother in Chucks pushing her daughter’s stroller down the street, unapologetically and with conviction, or perhaps it was the frank conversation about whether or not the girls would get an abortion if they found themselves dealing with an unplanned pregnancy, or maybe it was calling out the guy who raped their friend, or pointing out the casual sexism they had to put up with from strangers and classmates and one another. Mostly, I was blown away at how frankly a coming-of-age story could be presented in a feminist fashion, one in which the girls discover agency, instead of discovering how to be a pretty girl or a popular girl or how to catch the boy.

Casting fabulous, feminist Lili Taylor is almost shocking as Patti, young mother with a fuck-you attitude, because of Taylor’s age, but like all the reviews point out you quickly forgive and forget Taylor’s maturity because the role (mostly improvised) is so heartfelt. The other actors in the movie are somewhat forgettable, save for Bruklyn Harris, an actress that had a few breakout roles (like Dangerous Minds and Juice) in the mid to late ’90s. Her face is is so striking and her acting so sharp as an ambitious and politically active teenager jaded by the death of her friend. Her interactions with her mother in the movie are some of the most memorable scenes because they’re so typical of daughter-mother relationships and so carefully acted.

If anything what I took from the movie was a wistful remembrance of a time when blatantly feminist discourse was widely available in pop culture, even if it was independent media that was feminist culture’s primary venue. The mid-90s were a significant blip on the radar for feminism in pop culture with feminist activism present in all kinds of musical venues from hip hop to rock n’ roll, and I wonder what the hell happened.

Parental Humor, 2/2009

Several years ago, my mom told me that it was a good thing she and dad discovered antiquing. Because before antiques, she said, they never had anything in common but us kids.

She laughed, I stuttered, and she and Dad flitted off to another auction.

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For Audrey, Arkansas 196X

My dream job, if you didn’t know, is to archive obscure children’s books. This will probably never happen, ever. Not even in an alternative universe. This is what dreams are for.

There was this children’s book I have remembered fondly from my childhood that I decided I must find again, a book passed down from one sister to another after it was given to the oldest in the mid-1960s. I’d searched for it online by title and author for months (Biquette, The White Goat by Francoise) and found nothing, until last week when I discovered it on ebay. I ordered it immediately.

By my memory this book was about a sick little girl who was ordered by her doctor to get a goat and drink goat’s milk daily until she was well, and the goat was a bad little goat that got into all sorts of trouble, including eating the little girl’s red sweater. I also remembered that the accompanying illustrations were clever, detailed, and meaningful to me. What I remembered best is the cover of the book. The book jacket was long gone, but the primary illustration was embossed on the cover, a little goat in profile, smiling, its leash trailing behind it, on a background of hunter green.

When it arrived, I found that my only memories of this book that were correct are few — it was translated from French, the little girl in the story was ordered to get a goat and drink it’s milk, and the cover of the book is indeed green. It is neither clever nor climactic, and the illustrations are dull.

But acquiring this book did one thing that makes the purchase worthwhile. I remember this viscerally: being a small girl alone in a quiet room, pulling a book off the shelf, and feeling the magic and awe at seeing a handwritten inscription to my biggest sister who was once a small girl, unable to imagine that she was ever a child, or that I would ever grow up.

The Internet Is Mean

I hope (only a little) this is satire. Do stick around for the comments section, especially if you’re an educator.

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White Elephant

The Bruce fam has decided to do a white elephant Xmas this year, and Chef and I have been wandering around the house trying to decide what to wrap up as our presents. Tonight Chef had a brilliant idea, “I know! Your degree!”

It will do as much for them as it has for me. Fa la la la la! Ha!

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Posted with apologies to my mother.

Friday Random Ten, With REAL iPod

I haven’t done one of these in forever, but my mom gave me a REAL LIVE iPod while on drugs post-surgery last month, so I suppose it’s time.

Don’t think I took advantage of her or anything. She has an iPhone in addition to her iPod, and who needs both, really?

1) Swell Maps — Adventuring Into Basketry
2) Murder By Death — Theme (for Elmo Morricone)
3) The Kickdrums — Walking Dream
4) Jens Lekman — Bringing on the Sweet Nectar
5) The Fall — God-Box
6) Heartless Bastards — Had To Go
7) The Besnard Lakes — Cedric’s War
8) Junior Boys — When No One Cares
9) Golden Animals — My Friend Bill
10) Those Poor Bastards — You Belong To Me

Those Poor Bastards are like what would have happened if Nick Cave and Johnny Cash had a goth baby.

And Murder By Death are bringing this Gothic Americana thing home via Bloomington, Indiana. Woot.

Dressing Down

While getting ready to go to yet another holiday party, I’ve realized that although I start with every intention of getting really, really dressed up, I almost always end up dressing down. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing.

I’m totally excited about this party though. Chef has spent the last two weeks planning, and the last three days executing what should be a fancy little wine and amuse-bouche soirĂ©e. My mom is my date.

Things That Tickle Me

The cats bargain and fight for prime napping real estate under the Xmas tree. The spot also appears to be a great place to stalk and surprise other cats, which is why it is valued with such esteem.

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Silver Dragees

I decided I am going to get some and I am baking some damned Xmas cookies. Where am I and when did I turn into Martha Stewart’s inept cousin from Indiana?

Cornbread Stuffing

The recipe is from one of those ancient wire-bound cookbooks in my mom’s collection that is covered in splatters of sauce from holidays past. This stuff has reached legendary status in my mind as part of my mom’s culinary repertoire, the one thing I can never get enough of, and the one thing I will fight for at the dinner table once the cheese grits are eaten and gone. Now that I reflect on it, this is probably the most passive-aggressive of holiday dishes, in that if you resent your family you can just feed them cornbread stuffing until their arteries harden.

I made it this year since Mom was down and out after knee surgery and my sister was kid-wrangling most of the morning, and frankly, because I wanted to claim ownership of the dish this year. It was the one piece of Lauren’s Thanksgiving Bake-Off that was successful this week, wherein FOR WHATEVER REASON I peeled pearl onions instead of buying them canned*, crafted a batch of yeast rolls that cooked up hard and tasteless**, cooked up some cheese grits that while pretty didn’t manage to set***, and forgot all about green food on the Thanksgiving table. But the stuffing: it was good.

First you bake off a large slab of unsweetened cornbread, think a 9×12 dish. Melt ONE STICK OF BUTTER in a Dutch oven. Fry up about one half pound of sausage and one pound of ground beef in the butter. Dump in a chopped onion, several cloves of chopped garlic, and a couple sticks of chopped celery, and cook them with the meat and butter mixture until they’re tender. Then add ANOTHER STICK OF BUTTER, 12-ish ounces of chicken broth, and a tablespoon of Worcestershire sauce, and let this simmer for a little under two hours. Crumble up the cornbread into this mixture gradually while stirring, and season with salt, black pepper, red pepper, chili powder and paprika to taste. If it looks a little dry add more chicken broth to moisten the mixture. SERVE.

So basically, make a meat and butter soup and add cornbread. It’s ridiculous. And delicious.

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* I’m going to do this more often since I love onions so much. Buy a little bag of fresh pearl onions and boil them in water for about 3-5 minutes. Strain them and wait until they’re cool, then you can cut off the root end and squeeze the edibles out the bottom. So good sauteed.

** I don’t know what I did wrong, especially since the dough itself was perfect.

*** Two eggs, not one. Next time remember to bring the recipe.




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